About Conversation
Good conversation is fun. It helps us to achieve that relaxation, that peace of mind and soul which we all desire.
A pleasurable and valuable talk is like the therapy of gardening, painting, or any other form of recreational activity you enjoy.
Conversational Weak Spots and Strong Points
If you find yourself shying away from conversation, analyze your experiences in recent conversational situations. Ask yourself such questions as:
- Did I have trouble starting a conversation?
- Did I find it difficult to pick a topic for conversation?
- Was adjusting to persons my problem?
- Did I adjust well to the attitudes of others?
- Did I have a trouble starting a conversation?
- Getting others to start?
- Did I fail to keep a conversation going?
- Was it mis-pronunciation, forgetting names, words?
On the basis of your analysis, give special attention to the points below which most apply to you.
Prepare carefully for the more formal conversational situation.
If you are to go into a conference or an interview, become as well informed as you can about its subject.
Even in casual meetings you can do some planning -- you can think before you speak.
But do not prepare and rehearse phrases to use on a specific occasion. You can never predict the exact turn a conversation will take. No chapter, or book can tell you what to say when one unexpectedly meets with you. But armed with some principles, and some previous practice you ought to be able to make conversation.
If your difficulty seems to be finding suitable topics, the real problem may not be that you thinking about in the wrong way. You may have some misconceptions concerning the things people talk about.
Vastly exciting and amusing events do occur in this world, of course, and people enjoy hearing and telling about them. You will find plenty of material for conversation in the ordinary happenings and problems of everyday living.
